At 64 I am in the third tier of my life so I am closer to meeting my maker than I was 20 years ago. Therefore, everything I do must matter. Can I sustain a Nomadic lifestyle like this for the next 20 years? It all remains to be seen.
I wanted to write this blog post so that I could answer some questions that many interested parties might have about me.
Since my 21 months on the road — living and teaching from my van on the topics: 1) Natural Health/GMOs, 2) Business, 3) Minimalism, and 4) Happiness, many men have reached out to me.
Many men want a woman like me in their kitchen, living room, and especially their bedroom, but they need to understand up-front that that won’t be enough for me.
I wanted them to see up-front my goals and ambitions for living this lifestyle so they would not distract me or waste their time pursuing me.
Making Plans for the Future
My youngest daughter always tells me I make too many plans. However, I think it’s important for those around you to get a general idea of the direction you are going in, so they won’t think you have totally lost your mind.
Setting goals whether they are short-term or long-term to me is a very good thing. When I started this Nomadic lifestyle 21 months ago, my initial goal was to do this for the next 20 years.
Then my goal was to buy some land, a tiny house and grow some food and live out the rest of my life. In my 21 months, I would say that I am still on track to achieve my 20-year goal.
Whether it turns into a 5, 10, or a 15-year goal – that remains to be seen. If my life changes – it would have to be a significant reason for it.
Evaluate Your Current Situation
At 64 years of age, I am not the type of person who needs to be in a relationship to be happy.
I left my last relationship 2 years ago because I just did not like where it was headed. I had actually gotten off the road – traveling — very happy and content — living in nature — to be with this man.
But when you get that #TravelingBug or #TravelingItch — something will have to give and for us — it was our relationship.
A majority of the time my partner spent his time watching TV, especially CNN, instead of eating good foods, being active, and making plans to travel or be with me in nature.
I did not watch TV and wanted to be closer to nature traveling and it was so important to me at that point in my life that I live in this manner. It was as important to me as breathing in fresh air.
Therefore, I left the 4-year relationship and moved to another city one year later and bought a van, and started traveling in my new Nomadic lifestyle.
I have no regrets about my decision to move on. When you have outgrown a relationship and when you feel like you can no longer breathe in a relationship, either mentally, physically, or spiritually, it is definitely time to move on.
The goal is not to have any regrets in your life, and you should never feel that you are wasting your life – because you are staying in a relationship that isn’t going anywhere. Life is just too precious.
Listen To What Potential Partners Say To You
When men tell you, they have traveled enough in their lifetime – believe what they say. They are telling you up-front how they really feel.
And if you plan to spend the foreseeable future traveling then you will not waste your time with potential mates — who are obviously not on the same page as you.
Sometimes you will get all of this from their first conversation. Do not linger for months! Try to have these conversations up-front. Conversations on the phone need to start – not just conversations online.
Listen to everything in the background, especially his attempt not to even turn down the noise on the TV — while he speaks to you. This is a sign that this person spends the majority of their time watching TV.
And you have to ask yourself especially since you have found peace on the road – can you allow all this noise to occupy your thoughts and well-being again. The answer for me is an unequivocal ‘No’.
Why Men Do What They Do
Many men want a relationship but they are not willing to put in the work. At 64 I am ‘old school’ and I still believe that men should pursue women.
I was in the military for 3 and a half years and I worked with nothing but mostly men for over 25 years at U.S. Customs so I have spent a significant part of my life around men. Therefore, I understand many times how they feel about the opposite sex.
Men are very visual. They will watch you online and they especially are looking for full-body pics and/or videos of you.
If they like what they see, they will take it to the next stage to reach out online. The next step would be to ask for a number, but many will spend weeks approaching the opposite sex online instead of asking for a phone number.
And when they do get your number – all many want to do is text. There is nothing like hearing a person’s voice to determine if they are a potential match, but men have yet to pick up on this.
How Men Can Step Up Their A-Game and Find the Woman of Their Dreams
There are many good men out there and many good women so don’t give up hope. Because of 2020, many men now more than ever have become lazy when it comes to pursuing the opposite sex.
If they sat around for the better part of a year doing very little exercise and eating GMOs or Processed Foods, then these foods did nothing but turn off their brain and make them lazy.
The sooner they understand that and start taking the steps below – the quicker they will become a good, potential mate for that special woman.
Do the following daily:
-Smile more (Just like men like women to smile more — so do women so fellas show those pearly whites) -Eat good, clean organic foods
-Drink good clean water
-Take daily supplements
-Get plenty of rest
-Get plenty of sunshine
-Do regular detox programs
-Breathe in good air (Remove masks)
What Men Need To Know About Women
There are many potential things that men need to understand about women such as:
–Let her breathe after a past relationship: Fellas if you are getting with her after she is just coming out of another relationship, it’s too soon. Let her breathe first. Try to find a way to stay in her life. Do small, little things for her to let her know you are there, but she is just not ready to fully commit after leaving another relationship.
–Don’t pull her away from her dreams: If she is traveling, or on a spiritual journey, or just doing something that she always wanted to do when you meet her, step back and try to meet her out there on the road. If you pull her off the road too soon or away from her dreams too soon, that is trouble down the line. She will always think about how you pulled her away from her dreams.
–Take care of yourself first and foremost: The benefit of being with someone is that you both take care of each other. What is really attractive to women is men who take care of themselves — physically, mentally, and spiritually. Most women, especially seasoned women, biggest fear is having to be a ‘nursemaid’ to a man that she just met a few years earlier. Caregiving can cause major depression for a significant other so many women might walk away from you — especially if she just met you and you haven’t had a life-long commitment.
-Be careful what to say in a relationship: Just remember that relationships take a lot of work and once one of you stop trying — the relationship is basically over. There will be quarrels and upsets in relationships, but the goal is to #FightFair and continue saying #KindWords to each other. Sometimes it’s no going back so watch what you say to each other because the other person will never forget what you said. Just remember that a woman can and will walk away from a relationship when she is still in love with you. So again, #FightFair.
–Keep the romance department strong: All women like to be romanced — no matter what they tell you. Most like flowers, cards, other trinkets, etc. but mostly your affection and attention — so make sure you keep the romance department strong. Plan nights to be alone or trips away together. Just keep showing her you appreciate her for being in your life.
-Set her up an area in the home where she can relax: It doesn’t have to be a ‘she-room’, a spa in the other bathroom with a garden tub, but those would be nice accommodations to set up for her. Remember that women do so much in the home, therefore, they need a space where they can do yoga, meditation, listen to music, and just relax. The benefit is she will come back fulfilled and ready to please her man.
Meeting Potential Partners on the Road
There are plenty of opportunities out there to meet potential partners on the road. The fact that they are traveling like you — as a Nomad — can be very attractive to a potential mate.
Read my article “Meet Someone On The Road.” I live on the road so for anyone to pursue me – they need to do more than to scroll up and down my online presence, reach out to me online, or even call me on the phone.
They need to meet me on the road or even travel with me on the road — in their own vehicle – of course.
Even though I say I will be on the road for the next 20 years, there are potential men that I would probably alter my lifestyle for and I will know when I meet that man.
Meanwhile, what is really attractive though is men who realize that I am not just living my best life on the road, but the way that I am living is why I am who I am and no matter what he does – if he tries to take this from me, he will never get the whole person.
What I Really Do On the Road
I don’t know if people even understand what I do out here on the road riding around the country in my van #StarShip — but it makes me so happy.
As the author of 26 non-fiction books at www.AngelsPress.com, parking in nature has allowed all my thoughts to flow freely again so not only do I have a great traveling blog at www.SimpleLifeRVing.com, but I have also started back working on non-fiction books again after giving up writing initially to do my videos on youtube at www.YouTube.com/SimpleLifeRVing. I post daily also to my Instagram page at www.Instagram.com/SimpleLifeRVing.
I initially came on the road to – 1) Meet family on the road, 2) Meet new friends on the road, 3) Do welfare checks on my family and friends on the road, 4) See beautiful attractions on the road, and to 5) Hold my health and business seminars and workshops on the road.
The year 2020 altered many things in my life but many times it sent me in directions that brought even more happiness into my life.
Hopefully, starting in a few months when I get to Vegas and once my van is built out by the end of winter 2022, I can get back on track and continue to create a beautiful Nomadic life for myself — with my ‘face-to-face’ seminars and workshops.
There is nothing like seeing people’s eyes light up, especially young people when they realize they can change their own lives.
Other activities which are extremely important to me as I follow 70-degree weather and move in and out of areas around the country in my 2019 Dodge Ram Promaster 3500 Cargo Van — include understanding the culture of the areas that I am visiting by going to art galleries, libraries, museums and seeing other attractions, along with attending fitness gyms and classes, spas, hot springs, hotels with saunas, parks, going on walking and hiking trails especially up mountains, and close to oceans, lakes, and rivers — and once I get the van built out, I am even thinking about buying a bicycle.
For inspiration, I make it a point to do FREE disperse camping and stay on BLM.gov and National Forest land and wake up in nature surrounded by oceans, lakes, and rivers, and especially mountains. I am still trying to figure out if I am #TeamMountain or #TeamBeach, but I am having fun doing it.
The sky is the limit when you live an active Nomadic lifestyle. This lifestyle can help you be your healthiest self yet — whether you are traveling this life solo or with a partner. All you have to do is embrace your life and count your blessings.
Cathy Harris is a New Earth Educator, Speaker, Author, GMO Educator, and Holistic Healer at www.CathyHarrisInternational.com and she offers seminars, workshops, and consultations on Health/Gardening and Business. She is the author of 6 health books, 2 business books, and several other nonfiction books at www.AngelsPress.com. You can email Cathy at AskCathy@DearCathy.com or Cathy@CathyHarrisInternational.com and bring Cathy’s Mobile Learning Clubs (www.MobileLearningClubs.com) and Cathy’s Caravan (www.CathysCaravan.com) to your city.